Saturday, 23 July 2011

A lovely day; ruined.

This morning we decided to go strawberry picking with the children (minus Morgan as he's staying at my parents as a treat).  We found lots of lovely, juicy ones and had lots of fun.  After finishing with them we picked three sunflowers; one for us, one for my parents and one to leave with Scarlett.  We dropped some strawberries and sunflower off for my parents and then went to get something to eat.  It was nice enough food (long wait though) but enjoyable.  Picked a few dvds to watch and got some popcorn then drove to the cemetery to leave Scarlett's  sunflower there along with a new windchimes and a windmill from Liam's mum that she gave us when we visited.

When we arrived at Scarlett's grave we were absolutely shocked and stunned.  Someone had burnt all the flowers we had there, including the lovely artificial ones, moved all the candles and set them alight too and then torn apart the windmills.  It was a mess of black char and candle wax, other than the ones that had blown out which was the large one.  I am devastated by this utter lack of compassion or empathy for anyone else.  Anyone that could do something so horrible is clearly lacking something in their brain and intelligence.  It was callous and disgusting.  It's bad enough that our baby daughter is dead without having her place of rest desecrated like that.

We tidied it up as best as we could but the children were upset too, it was Ethan's first visit there and he had to see that; he's 4 years old.  Caitlin is 9 and mature for her age, she couldn't understand why anyone would do such a thing.  Even at 9 years old she thought it was abhorrent and was clearly upset.

We're going out tomorrow morning to replace the things that were burnt but for now at least it's all tidy and clean and has a few things left there for her.   I feel a mixture of disgust, anger and sadness all at the same time.  What must that person or people have been thinking when they did it?  If anything?  Why?  Why would anyone do it.

Liam called the police and they were lovely, said they'd take it very seriously and are coming out to see us on Monday and make a report.  I don't know what they'll be able to do but it's something and all we can do right now.

What is wrong with people?  What normal person could or would do something like this?  I believe in karma, I really do.  I wonder if people like that ever think about the consequences of their actions?  Or if they think about how much pain and hurt they're causing when they do such horrible things.  I hope not, if they did and still carried on then it would make them inhuman.

A very strained week ahead now then; police, consultant appointment and another scan.  Just what I needed, more stress to add to what I already have.


  1. Christ. I don't know what to say - that's appalling.

    But you came back and you FIXED it. Well done. I hope the police can find something out to feed back to you.

    Don't know you but (hugs) to you and your family.

  2. Dear God, how low can people stoop? I'm stunned.

    Hope you and your little ones are OK.

  3. Thanks for the comments. Dcs are OK, we did take them back to visit again with more things to put on her grave so they could see it the way it's supposed to be. My youngest (4) remembered what had happened and said that this was were people had burnt things when we got there but he seemed OK afterwards.